And even if some of it was painful, there was a reason for all of it.īut what about if you had an abusive parent? Isn’t it perfectly understandable that you would blame them? Understandable, yes. You had no idea that you had the power to create and therefore, much of your reality may have seemed less than wanted. Now, this may not seem plausible, if you had a less than happy childhood, but remember that you were almost certainly creating by default. Everything that happened to you from then on, was part of your creation. You sent out intentions and vibrations and your parents were a match to that. You aligned with your parents because of the energy you put forth before you were born. But part of realizing your own power is understanding that you create your own reality – all of it. I’m not saying that you don’t have any healing left to do, that’s a different story altogether. If you’ve been blaming your parents for past wrongs, you’d be well served to give it a break. It’s simply impossible for that to happen. You could not have asserted something onto them that they were not a vibrational match to. Your kids created everything in their lives, wanted and unwanted, just like you did. In fact, we often lose clarity over time. We do not get more powerful with age and experience. We have to give them credit for who and what they are. In the reality that we all shared, we were all a match to making that move.Ĭhildren are powerful creative beings, often more powerful than adults, because they haven’t been as trained out of remembering who they are yet. Even if we didn’t vote verbally, we did so vibrationally. And even if we bitched and complained about changing schools and towns and having to learn a new language, our vibration was in agreement. My mother was following her intuition, but that intuition was in line with ours. If you look at this from a deeper, energy-based perspective, my sister and I could never have moved to America if we were not a vibrational match to it. One might assume that my mother, being the parent, made the decision to move continents, and my sister and I had no choice. This was a major life decision and one which impacted all of us for the rest of our lives. If the parents are following their intuition, they will be following a collective intuition – one that matches both their and their children’s vibration.įor example, when I was 9, my mother moved my sister and me from Germany to the US. The mother and father may think that they are making the decisions for the family, but just because their kids can’t verbally express their desires (and may, in fact even be expressing the opposite), their vibration is doing the talking for them. Parents and children are in this together – they are co-creating their realities. Leave the past in the past and focus on creating the present you really want.Īnd third, and most importantly, no one can create another’s reality. And if something doesn’t feel good, it doesn’t serve you. Does it feel good to think about your life this way? Does it serve you to blame yourself or your parents? No. But you can certainly mess up your present and your future by continuously judging your own or your parents’ past behavior. All the dissecting and blaming and worrying will not change anything that has already happened. Second, the past is the past and can’t be changed. Why assume you or your parents made a mistake or that the path you were on wasn’t the best of the choices? The point is, you can’t know what would’ve happened and you never will. Perhaps, had you all not acted the way you did, life would’ve been much, much worse. But the thing is, you have no idea what crap you avoided by making or being subject to the decisions you or your parents made. You may think that you know, but can you say with 100% certainty that life would’ve been better? A lot of the time, we assume that if we’d made a decision differently in the past, problems would’ve been avoided. Here’s why:įirst, you have no way of knowing how your or your child’s life would’ve turned out, had things gone differently. But I’m going to let the parents off the hook here. If only they had done this or that, been this way or that way, life would’ve surely been much easier. And children love to blame their parents for their problems. They blame themselves for any issues their children have. Could they have spared their children pain? Did their decisions cause irreparable scars in their offspring, forever condemning them to an emotionally stunted life of never ending resentment? Parents worry that they could’ve done a better job. When they’re adults, mom and dad worry that they could’ve or should’ve done countless things differently. When the kids are little, they worry that they’ll screw them up for life.
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